Inherently Happy

Happy Apathy - Ep. 407

Sometimes hitting snooze may be just the thing you need, 
Pressing pause on worry now to help you later succeed.

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Ep. 407 - Happy Apathy

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

Do you ever just want to do nothing at all?
People, current events, the news, 
Everything just makes you want to hit snooze,
Staying in bed curled up in a little ball?

Well, sometimes that may be just the thing you need,
As long as you acknowledge that it doesn’t have to last,
You can use it to take a break until the storm has passed,
Sometimes turning off worry can help you later to succeed.

We all need some downtime now and then,
It doesn’t make you a quitter to press pause, 
It can even help you bring new life to your cause,
And help prevent total burnout now and again.

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Yowza

 

The Inherently Happy Rule - Ep. 406

Always Aim for Balance and Growth.
For when you reach for dynamic sustainability,
It helps you achieve not just one but both.

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Ep. 406 - The Inherently Happy Rule

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

There’s lots of rules out there describing good behavior and proper conduct,
There’s the Silver Rule, the Golden Rule and even the Platinum Rule too,
But there’s still exceptions to those rules--allow me to deconstruct:
Let’s start with the Golden Rule: Treat others as you want them to treat you.

Sounds good--at first, but what if I don’t want to be treated the same way that you do?
Maybe you like brutal honesty, so you decide to attack someone while they’re down,
You’re just following the Golden Rule--so how can that plan possibly fall through?
It’s because not everyone needs the same things, overwatering can make you drown.

A cousin to that is the Silver Rule: Don’t treat others how you don’t want them to treat you.
That’s fine, right? Well, what if you hate it when people ask you for help when they need it? 
So, you, in turn, never ask for help either, even when you could really use it too, 
So, you just create a situation where nobody helps anybody and we all lose bit by bit.

Then there’s the Platinum Rule--well, that’s got to be the best one, right?
Treat others the way they want to be treated. What could go wrong with that?
Well, what if they want to be mistreated because they feel they deserve spite,
And the reason they feel bad is because they are bad--when they are not a doormat!

The problem is--all those rules are relative, They depend on who likes to be treated how.
Except one, of course, The Inherently Happy Rule: Always Aim for Balance and Growth.
Now you could say that’s relative too--Balance and Growth depends on what’s happening now,
But when you reach for dynamic sustainability it helps you achieve not just one but both.

Let say you’re overwhelmed, things are getting frantic and you’re getting stressed,
You want to give up, but you can't because you haven't finished your work yet,
But if, instead, you stop trying to fight everything, which is only making you more obsessed,
You’ll see that treating things as connected challenges--not hardships may be your best bet.

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Happy Context - Ep. 405

Happy Context means taking all things into account, 
Not assuming you know everything based on a first impression,
There’s usually more to a person than that initial amount,
So, give people a chance beyond just that first session.

 

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Ep. 405 - Happy Context

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

Sometimes we only get part of someone’s story and as a result may miss the meaning,
So we jump to conclusions thinking we got all we need, or all there is to know,
Thus dismissing the critical thinking part of our brains with no plans for reconvening,
And in so doing we underestimate others, and wind up with nothing to show.

For when you judge people based on a single action or trait, you ignore all other factors,
Culture, upbringing, thoughts and experiences all play a part in who we are,
And when we discount someone’s unique circumstances we encourage their detractors,
And shortchange ourselves as Variety is what’s helped Humanity get this far.

Happy Context means taking all things into account, 
Not assuming you know everything based on a first impression,
There’s usually more to a person than that initial amount,
So, give people a chance beyond just that first session.

Now, sure, this still doesn’t mean you’re going to get along with everybody you meet,
You could give them every opportunity to reveal their true selves and they still fall short,
Some people don’t even give themselves a chance to grow and so will settle for defeat,
And that can prove a draining burden that it is not your responsibility to support.

I’ve tried giving some people the benefit of the doubt, but they just lashed out instead,
I let them know that if they kept that up, then I might stop returning their calls,
But rather than change their behavior, they doubled down, completely ignoring what I’d said,
It can be a pity when every attempt at raising up others results in catastrophic falls.

But then there’s those who at first seem awful, but after giving them a chance are great,
Because sometimes they need another opportunity to get to know you too,
All of us can put up walls to protect ourselves, and lash out at things that we hate,
But when we put in a little extra time, effort and intention we can sometimes break through.

I’ve had friends who later betrayed me, and I’ve had bullies who became my defenders,
So, I’m not saying every person you meet deserves a second chance, or a third,
But that we should still try to look past the surface to separate supporters from offenders,
And let them do the same in return to clarify the image that was previously blurred.

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Happy Hundred Thousand - Ep. 404

It’s crucial that we maintain our own sense of integrity and self-rule, 
Success isn’t chasing someone else’s prize, but building something with meaning,
It’s not about polishing someone else’s imitation crown jewel,
Manufactured by those that can’t even be bothered to see which way people are leaning.

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Ep. 404 - Happy Hundred Thousand 

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

It took a little under seven years to reach ten thousand downloads on this podcast,
And now it’s taken a little over nine months more to reach one hundred grand,
So every month since hitting ten K, that old seven year record has just been blown past,
So, thanks! It’s great people get the Inherently Happy Way, I’m so glad you understand.

As more people listen and share, 
We all become more aware, 
But then--with them come the promoters and the sellers, 
Those advertising gals and marketing fellers,

They say, ‘I see that your podcast is gaining some ground,’ 
‘You know what’d make it better? Selling our stuff--by the unit, liter, bushel, and pound!’
‘We have books, we have drinks,’ 
‘We have apps with hyperlinks!’
‘We’d love to turn your platform into our vending machine merry-go-round!’

But to them I ask this, ‘have you ever even listened to an episode?’
For it may not be the kind of thing that you require or expect,
They’re reminders for Balance and Growth, not a place for your trucks to unload,
The only guest is me and the only merch is mine designed to help folks connect.

Then sometimes I receive arrogant and aggressive emails demanding my reply,
They give me deadlines and ultimatums and warn me not to waste their time,
So, I don’t--I simply don’t respond, not even to thank them for stopping by,
I don’t much care for bullies, so I don’t even bother sending them a “no thank you” rhyme.

And besides, I’ve met corporate sales people before, I know the tactics they employ,
Everything is urgent, and limited, and will make all your wildest dreams come true!
When what they really want is ownership and to take away one’s independence and joy,
They pressure and threaten and before you know it they control everything you say and do.

But that’s not Balance and Growth! That’s not the Inherently Happy Way! 
I make these shows to try to distill what I learn about life into something I can use,
To help me the next time I feel stressed, angry, upset or unsure after a really tough day,
And if people want to share that--great! it’s available to all to listen to as you choose.

It’s crucial that we maintain our own sense of integrity and self-rule, 
Success isn’t chasing someone else’s prize, but building something with meaning,
It’s not about polishing someone else’s imitation crown jewel,
Manufactured by those that can’t even be bothered to see which way people are leaning.

So to those who just want to get your hooks into me, well, maybe you need to listen too,
Maybe you’ve let the world make you forget that you’re Inherently Happy as well,
Maybe you’ve lost your way, and need to start deciding for yourself what’s best for you,
It’s never too late, the time is now!--and maybe your soul isn’t something you should sell. 

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Pleasantly Happy - Ep. 403

The importance of being Pleasant is not to be dismissed,
You may think it means being a pushover, but I disagree,
It can sometimes take far more strength than just making a fist,
Because it requires you to have empathy to a significant degree.

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Ep. 403 - Pleasantly Happy

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

The importance of being Pleasant is not to be dismissed,
You may think it means being a pushover, but I disagree,
It can sometimes take far more strength than just making a fist,
Because it requires you to have empathy to a significant degree.

I encounter people in bad moods on a regular basis,
And I sometimes want to tell them to go take a flying leap,
But that just pollutes the waters of my mental oasis,
Resulting in nothing more than a psychological garbage heap.

But being Pleasant, on the other hand, can sometimes work wonders, 
Once they realize I'm unflappable, they can stop pushing quite so hard,
They might even apologize for their attitude and their blunders, 
And then I get to be the bigger person and someone they can’t disregard.

I grew up on a street that provided access to the cemetery in my town,
They called the street Pleasant to make it seem nice and quiet,
I imagine a name like Cemetery Lane wouldn’t have had the same renown,
And if it was called Death Road, the town parade might’ve turned into a riot.

But Pleasant Street wasn’t always peaceful, there were fights, funerals and speeding cars,
We lost more than one beloved housepet over the years to drivers not paying attention,
And there were dog attacks, rivalries and acts of bullying that left lasting scars,
As well as forms of cruelty beyond levels of above-average comprehension.

So I learned to be tough because in my house you needed a thick skin,
And yet I didn’t want to grow up to be cold, bitter, angry, hateful or afraid,
So I left Pleasant Street, while still carrying some of those feelings deep within,
And ridding myself of that pain has been something of a lifelong crusade.

Who else but such a one as that would do a weekly podcast about Balance and Growth,
Trying to come to terms with the unpleasantness that can sometimes bubble forth,
But I don’t just want to pretend to be Pleasant, which can come off as fake and forced both,
I try to find real reasons to actually feel and be Pleasant letting Happy be my True North.

Used to be that behind my smiling mask was a face of pure vengeance and hot fury,
I couldn’t fight all the Mean People at once, so I sat brooding, plotting their eventual demise,
Someday, I vowed, when least they expected it, I would be their executioner, judge and jury,
And then I’d laugh, and bury them so deep that no one would ever catch wise.

But the further I got from Pleasant Street, the more I could let those bad old feelings go,
And as I did I realized that underneath all that darkness there was light,
I remembered the days long before bullies ever came into my life and brought me low,
Back when people arguing who could claim to be my best friend was the only fight.

I was Pleasant and Happy, and what I once was, I was sure I could be again,
I just had to strip away all the old bad habits, aggression and grudges I was holding on to,
Not for anyone else, but for myself, I needed to decide there and then
That I would aim for Balance and Growth in all that I say and do.

It took me a minute, and it’s not smooth sailing always even now,
I’ve had to suffer through heartbreak and tragedy, near death experiences and loss,
But even when I get stressed I still find causes to smile and you want to know how?
I remember that Happy comes from within, and knowing that makes me my own boss.

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Happy Authenticity - Ep. 402

Happy Authenticity means you follow your own path, 
Not to impress others, or to keep them off your back,
But because, maybe, you prefer cartooning to theoretical math,
And you love what you have, rather than hating what you lack.

 

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Ep. 402 - Happy Authenticity

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

I used to try to conform to what other people thought I should be,
I wore long pants and studied science despite preferring art and wearing shorts,
I signed my name in cursive, and ate whatever was put in front of me,
Which led to bitterness, nervousness and record-breaking nausea by all reports.

I wanted people to like me and to want to be my friend,
Like that time in my early youth when I was positively adored, 
Before fears and growing pains marked a distinctly downward trend,
And I was both mocked and shunned by an ever-growing horde.

I become increasingly desperate to turn things back around,
But no matter what I did, it seemed to be the exact wrong thing,
No matter the tactic or effort, I seemed forever to be losing ground,
Still, I hoped life was a pendulum and that I was eventually due an upswing.

But there’s something to be said for being friendless, for it means having no peers,
Since without those, one has no peer pressure, which makes conforming a waste,
And so I was free to work on myself and to, one by one, dismantle my own fears,
Allowing me to pursue my own interests according to my own sense of good taste.

I could freely admit that I didn’t like certain foods, or long pants, or cursive letters,
I allowed myself to be silly when I felt like it and quiet when I ran out of things to say,
I pursued the arts, stopped going to church, and refused to wear pullover sweaters,
I hung out in cemeteries contemplating the universe, and managed to find my own way.

Because I gave myself the freedom to try new things to see what would stick,
If I started a new hobby that didn’t last, well, I could at least say I tried,
And because I didn’t need the approval of others, their demands had no kick,
I could also be totally honest with myself because who would prefer that I lied?

Happy Authenticity means you follow your own path, 
Not to impress others, or to keep them off your back,
But because, maybe, you prefer cartooning to theoretical math,
And you love what you have, rather than hating what you lack.

So, does this mean I sleep out in the wilds with neither job nor home?
Not at all, I earn my rent doing office work and helping out where I can,
But I also write, draw and dream, letting my heart soar and my soul roam,
Making my life into something I like, as Happy now as it was when it all began.

Haha 
Yowza

 

Happy Change - Ep. 401

Everything fluctuates--Life itself is Change,
It can affect plans both short-term and long-range.
Will you fight the inevitable or will you be able to adapt?
Tapping into hidden reserves of resilience previously untapped?

 

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Ep. 401 - Happy Change

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

Everything fluctuates--Life itself is Change,
It can affect plans both short-term and long-range.
Will you fight the inevitable or will you be able to adapt?
Tapping into hidden reserves of resilience previously untapped?

If you embrace the changes you find, are you being too passive?
If you challenge them, do you risk your aggression getting too massive?
Like with anything, it depends on what the change is.
Is it the collapse of an empire, or a bubbly drink losing its fizz?

Is something being created or destroyed?
Is something improving or deteriorating?
Does it make you enthusiastic or annoyed?
Is it empowering or debilitating?

Is something getting bigger or smaller?
Are things moving faster or slower?
And which do you prefer? Thicker, thinner, shorter, taller?
And would you adjust the frequency if you could? Higher or lower?

Change comes in many forms, Death for one can mean Life for another,
The early bird catching the worm could be some baby bird’s mother.

Growth is Change, but Balance allows us to manage it,
Reality is in a constant state of dynamic flux and sway,
We do our best as time and resources permit,
Hoping and struggling, trying to win the day.

We must remember to temper our expectations for both good and bad, 
Good things will change, and bad things will change, so don’t get stuck, 
But keep agile and adaptable even as you feel glad, mad or sad,
So that you can move with the fluctuations and not be a sitting duck.

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Happy Grace - Ep. 400

If you can see yourself in people who may be dissimilar to you, 
If you can find the humanity in those who can, at first, cause you dismay,
Then you could get to know and even learn to appreciate their different worldview,
Which may afford you the gift of Happy Grace, allowing you to see things in a new way.

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Ep. 400 - Happy Grace

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

If you can see yourself in people who may be dissimilar to you, 
If you can find the humanity in those who can, at first, cause you dismay,
Then you could get to know and even learn to appreciate their different worldview,
Which may afford you the gift of Happy Grace, allowing you to see things in a new way.

We all like to consider our views to be right and everybody else's to be wrong,
But sometimes those who disagree with us can still make valid points,
Which we’d never discover if we’re being too dismissive or headstrong,
Complaining about how everything they do disturbs, distorts and disjoints.

If you are religious, do you have any non-religious friends?
If you are political, do you associate with those who are not?
Or even with those who are religious and political but with seemingly different ends?
Does it turn into a shouting match resulting in each side giving as good as they got?

Inherently Happy means that Balance and Growth are built-in, standard features, 
We all feel better when we stop fighting ourselves, and sustainably improve instead,
And part of that relies on us expanding our horizons, a lesson taught by all the best teachers,
Which means we must sometimes dive into opposing viewpoints becoming more well-read.

Those who you claim to be the enemy, may think the very same of you,
Their anger and fear of you exactly matching the energy you yourself are showing,
Which you can’t see because you’re too busy condemning everything that they do,
Which only proves their point, both of you unaware of your own lack of knowing.

But if you can turn off the spotlights and sirens and learn to listen and connect, 
Then you may find that they are willing to do the same for you to reach common ground,
Because Happy Grace is for everyone willing to look beyond destructive cause and effect,
And recognize within others the very same humanity we ourselves claim to have found.

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Happy Smart - Ep. 396

Science shows us what Logic, Nature and the Body are and can do,
Philosophy shows us why People, Life and the Self are worthwhile subjects to pursue,
And Art shows us how Words, Images and Music express the experiences we all go through.

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Ep. 396 - Happy Smart

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

Let me tell you a little about the nine kinds of smart, 
You can add them to a spreadsheet or graph them on a chart, 
To help you recall the facts I’m trying to impart.

Some people call them talents, others say they’re learning styles, 
But even if you call them traits that the heart and mind compiles,
They often tend to show themselves in a variety of skill profiles.

You can sort them somewhere under the Three Great Considerations,
Ways of interacting with reality in all its fluctuations, 
Those being Science, Philosophy, and Art and their various specifications.

Science shows us what Logic, Nature and the Body are and can do,
Philosophy shows us why People, Life and the Self are worthwhile subjects to pursue,
And Art shows us how Words, Images and Music express the experiences we all go through.

Logic as in patterns, Nature as in environment, and Body as in sports,
People as in empathy, Life as in existence, and Self as in reflection when feeling out of sorts, 
Words as in language, Images as in design, and Music as in rhythm that transports

When we show an interest in any of these areas we learn how to connect, 
We see the relationships between thoughts and feelings, between cause and effect,
And we learn about truth, harmony, integrity and realize what it means to come correct.

The Three Great Considerations of Science, Philosophy and Art, 
Are ways to engage with the world through the mind and the heart,
And all the methods of doing that are what teach us to become Happy Smart.

Haha
Yowza

 

[Photo Edit: on the illustration, "Logic" has been changed to "Math" to clear up any confusion as to what kind of Logic it is, namely, mathematical logic and problem solving, not rhetorical logic and debate, which would be more related to Philosophy]

Happy Resistance - Ep. 399

Strength is often measured in terms of brute force, 
If someone can fight oppression, then they must be strong, of course!
But sometimes power doesn’t need to be expressed at arm’s length,
For the ability to endure without collapsing is true mental strength!

 

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Ep. 399 - Happy Resistance

We begin as always 
with the Happy Creed.

We believe in Happy, 
in Balance and Growth, 
of being Mindful and Grateful,
Compassionate and Understanding.

Yowza
Haha
My Happy Friends!

Strength is often measured in terms of brute force, 
If someone can fight oppression, then they must be strong, of course!
But sometimes power doesn’t need to be expressed at arm’s length,
For the ability to endure without collapsing is true mental strength!

I’ve often been told I’m too emotional by people who consider emotions to be weak,
And those very same people then resort to destructive habits as a coping technique,
When I, instead, recommend learning how to manage one’s emotions and moods, 
Through Happy thoughts, practices, and habits, like exercise, good sleep and healthy foods.

When tragedy befalls me, I don’t bottle it up, I express it, I let it out, I process,
This is not being too emotional or weak, this is dealing with it so that I don’t obsess,
So that I don’t let it fester and rot and turn me furious, manic, psychotic or numb, 
I don’t view my moods as things to be feared or avoided because, to me, well, that’s dumb.

That is misunderstanding the very nature of the human heart and mind,
Which help us to self-regulate our lives in the face of society’s daily grind,
If you deny your own ability to deal with life, then you’ll fight yourself every day,
You’ll fill yourself with shame and hatred, call yourself weak and throw your humanity away.

I used to try to fight my emotions because that’s what everyone told me I should do,
Unless it was anger, that was okay, so I became a vandal and a pyromaniac--wouldn’t you?
I drank, I smoked, I did drugs, I was mean to myself and to others--what a tough guy, right?
I got speeding tickets, I got into fights, I cut myself, and plotted revenge at all hours of the night.

I got arrested, I lost friendships, I got in trouble at work,
I called people names, I talked back and acted like a jerk,
I’d show them, I vowed, I’d make them regret it one day--they’d all see!
But this self-made poison wasn’t hurting them, it was only killing me.

The world didn’t owe me anything, I finally realized, it was the other way around, 
We’re all just trying to get through life as best we can, from delivery bed to burial ground,
And we should make use of all the resources we have and all the help we can get, 
It’s not weakness to train yourself to handle extreme emotions before you get too upset.

Fighters don’t wait until they find themselves attacked to learn what to do,
They practice every day to get so good that it becomes second nature. and so can you,
Because life is a challenge for everyone, we all face the same potential for bleakness, 
And trying to just white-knuckle your way through isn’t a strength, it’s a weakness.

Thanks to my regularly practicing dealing with my moods, and not shying away from them,
I have greatly improved my ability to deal with what life throws my way, from joy to mayhem,
From tragedy to triumph, because both extremes can lead to imbalance that can derail,
So, if anything--I’m less emotional in the sense that instead of collapsing, I prevail.

We all face challenges, no one gets away clean,
And all we can do is our best, whatever that may mean,
So, raise your own level of expertise to be able to stand strong, 
And come what may, you’ll withstand the onslaught and wind up where you belong.

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